Feeding Your Focus by BIO Connect

As the universe would have it I receive an invitation to an event and remembered to read the email a few hours before the RSVP deadline. However this event was an event to top all events I’ve attended thus far in 2017 and here’s why.

Not only was Bio Connect launching their website after about a year of going strong. I also found that a small conference room filled with smart intellectuals and a phenomenal speaker was exactly what I needed to release my winter brain from its deep slumber. It was the night I got my brain into "Formation", as it were. We were ready to BloomInsideOut and tap into our own greatness. 

The speaker Nokuthula Luthuli, also known as Nox, of Bloom Marketing, had a phenomenal workshop prepared for us. Now having come from Womens’ month in August and with all the women issues faced this year, one could have expected her to go on and on about how Femicide, since its the buzz word these days. No not Nox! She took her passion, flair and finesse for public speaking and made us realise we should be focusing on “where” we see ourselves going and how we were going to get there. Now I have heard talks about how you get to your “there” and who you need to take along to get there but this time Nox dived head first into her intuition and thoroughly researched how we can feed the focus so that we never lose our touch in business and in life.

“You were born to achieve, to release your inner power…fulfill your uniqueness” says Nox.  Sharing pointers like: “What do you want and have a proper list ladies. Then ask yourself what is distracting you…” Ladies left with plenty homework to do as we all hopped into our cars to conquer what’s left of what has felt like a year that has been dragging on for more than it needs to.  

I definitely had to be very hard with myself and write a list of things I needed to focus on. But mostly restructure what I need to do to get “there”. Ladies I hope to see you at the next Bio Connect. I know I won’t be missing it. Unless I had date night of course.

For details on our next Bio Connect workshop read more here: www.bloominsideout.co.za

I am ready for your love

I am ready for you to breathe the same air as me. To be kind and inspiring with me. To be emotional and throwing bricks with me. I am ready for the laughs and gossip sessions where we asses why people are so stupid.

I am ready for the compliments and pleads of love and extra kisses. I am ready for the jam sessions in the car and harmonies. I need you like the dessert needs water. I need you for the spell of skin lightening on my cocoa butter skin.

I need a calendar. I need a strategist. I need head of logistics. I need my year planner. Consortium buyer. I am ready to family and familiar with you. I am ready to decorate and frighten the neighbours’ kids with ya.

I need a shield and evade the rains of terror. I’m ready for your manhood to mess up my womanhood. Whoever you are I’m ready for my ass to be black all over you. For my tears to be the fuel to correct all the wrongs in (our) world.

I’m ready for your view. I’m ready for the dimensions of submission and nurturing and catering and satisfaction-ary love. Do I even make sense to you. Some guy said to me I’m random today. I wanted to ask him: “So do you want a medal bitch”?

Get it real and keep it real. I’m OK with you being the love of my life, are you? 

I am a Phoenix

Just yesterday I was admiring how the screen directors of the Harry Potter movie were able to depict the phoenix. The awe I got when I understood what it looked like to have this animal explode into nothing and up from the ashes. We all have those moments. When life explodes and up from the dirt one has to dust oneself up and go.

I was trapped in one of my dark and hard places. Where I don’t want to see or interact with anyone. Luckily I have friends; my friends made it their effort that as much as depression had sucked me in, I had to keep breathing. Every time they called I was either dragging my body around waiting for the day to end or I was sleeping. I hid in the flat and I slept so much my bones started to ache. I didn’t want to open the curtains to see daylight. Because that meant people were going at their dreams and I was the only one defeated in life. I sat there with no ambition or goal to even live.

Then I realised that as the days went by I keep betraying the driven woman in me and placing the weak woman first. The weak me needed to pack her bags and leave. I know that there are plenty commitments that had me drained. But also feeling like there was no actual value I was adding to people around me in the spaces I am placed in, started to choke the very essence of me. I yearned for the heavy blanket of worthlessness to fall off and for the real me to enjoy the sunlight that is my calling in life. I wanted for so long to be one with it. A friend of mine was saying to me but you looked like you were having a blast on Social Media. I think as human beings we can fake so well on Social Media that people assume it’s the real deal. Social Media is not the real thing. It’s selling a fairytale for most people. So while I sold my story those around me, lapped it up like a thirsty dog drinking water on a hot day.

The reason for this blog post is to say, one doesn’t need to stay down for too long. I was always sure that my dark whole would have to change soon. I knew that there bills to be paid and life had to resume and the only way I could press the resume button was to change something around me, so I went out and bought new linen. There it was, my little change was my emancipation.

The Scary Grey Bearded God

People have thrown all kinds of images of God over the years. We even have cross in jewellery to symbolise a myriad of ways of how our devotion can be fashioned out. I have no problem with that. My biggest problem at the present moment is not even how we represent God and mostly on the portrayal of God being this big grey bearded man sitting on a gold arm chair ready to zap humans at any moment.

Now I have been in the church since I walked in a church with my mom, I in her belly and she accepting Jesus Christ as her lord and saviour, about eight years later I would do the same. You might say I was rather young to be doing that, committing to such at my age however he is all I had and still is this is my reality. The reason I brought my narrative through is so that you would know a bit of background. But he was never and never has been scary or draconian. He is referred to as a “jealous” God in the bible but he also says; “test me and see that I am not good” and “ask and you shall receive”. The bible (if I may use it as a referral here) also says his mercies are new every morning.

But let us take away all the things that make us assume warm and fuzzy feelings about him, or the debate that why do bad things happen to good people. If we are to look at ourselves and see that as much as our lives are hard we still have what we have and he has not zapped us or thrown balls of fire to burn us all up then surely he can’t be a nasty God? I have used scenarios and words very carefully in this post because I know who I am talking about and I have the assurance of his existence. I am saying we have gone for too long torturing ourselves with all the Sunday school stories adults created to scare us of God. His power and magnitude is something to be feared and revered but not he, his love is real and unconditional. There it is that is all of it.

Wicked Winning Woman

We never needed more women in industries in fact we never needed to be recognised by others. We needed to support each other and be happy for each other at any point in time. That saying ‘not everyone is going to be happy for you’ is commonly said in female circles and not male circles, go figure.

Having had a conversation with a friend this morning I felt compelled to write this because it is important we see where we are getting it wrong. We are getting it wrong when we are holding grudges and being jealous towards those who are doing better than us. Holding bitterness and not being strong enough to stand in the sun with a friend and say I will stand with you for your “glory” while I wait for mine. So speaking frankly in this post I would be correct in saying that we don’t do that. We don’t want to stand with another sister while she shines for how many times she shines.

I would like to say that many of the lessons we learn we learn from the female figures around us. My figure is my mother. My mother has under gone many transformations to get to her 50 something self and still she just gets on with it. But she taught me loyalty and honesty at a very young age. She stayed in a job for more than 20 years and she endured, even when others said go get better she said this is better for all the people in my life. Those people where her kids, boss, friends, church mates, family you name it. She understood that a blessing came when she knew how to bless others. So from a young age I learnt that waiting for the blessing won’t really bother me if I am supporting another. And if you get distracted enough in supporting other people you won’t have time to be jealous.

There is only one step and then we would have arrived, that is to be happy with others, before your time and after your time. Give yourself the blessing of supporting others before your turn. Not everything is about you and how you will get there. You will get there via others and you need to accept that. You can’t reach anywhere without reaching outside of yourself.

Stalker

I am so proud of South Africa lately especially when it comes to keeping up to date with new series. I am on twitter and constantly I see what folk abroad are interested in or are viewing. I was actually introduced to this series by a colleague’s friend who had come into the office. This lady and I were talking about South Africa and our different professions and interests when she said; “I suggest you watch Stalker it’s so cool it seems right up your alley”.

After watching a few jaw dropping episodes I remember immediately thinking this is happening to so many woman in South Africa. Also I remember very well saying to myself that, my little sister has to watch this, in fact I am going to force her. I am adamant that this an extremely transparent look at present day society and how much the internet and our smart and savvy phones have exposed us to even more dangerous situations.

You watch as each episode dives into the hardest scariest situation a victim could ever go through. I feel like the awareness has reached its peak internationally. We have the likes of Angelina Jolie, Emma Watson and others campaigning that more people need to support the drive of protecting our women and girls. The articles we read during awareness months turn our stomachs but illustration and visuals like the series Stalker are a constant reminder that we facing a tragic epidemic. We need to step it up and watch for tell-tell signs, which is exactly what the detectives go through in this series.

With amazing lead actors like Dylan McDermott, Maggie Q, Mariana Klaveno, Elisabeth Rohm, Victor Rasuk who play characters who work for a very busy detectives unit that investigate crimes surrounding stalking. You see the details and also the magnitude but also the effects that stalking has on people. The story line does come full circle when it points us to a serious case within the unit but I won’t spoil it for you all. All I can say is, watched it and if it’s of any interest finish the first season.

Neopitso Ft Ab Crazy – We On

It’s the first time in a long time that I have been able to listen to a rapper and actually hear them, let alone have it make sense. Neo Pitso and Ab Crazy brought their A-game. “We On” is their new release. Neo Pitso has been dubbed Australia’s best kept secret and now he is making that international move by going global with his music. 

Neo Pitso who resides in Australia has, recently announced the release of his new single “We On”. In his single he expresses his unique rhyme flow and boisterous lyrics. His lyrics speak of patiently waiting; hinting that this man has been hungry to get to the top but his rise has been one hell of an incline. With a catchphrase “obsessed with success” he is going for gold, “I keep telling them I am coming for all this”.

Neo Pitso had performed with the biggest international names in Hip Hop such as Nas, The Game, Rick Ross and Bone Thugs & Harmony when they toured Australia. Neo Pitso embodies everything a great artist should posses; it's only a matter of time before his name is on everyone's lips. 

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